Lessons are more often caught then taught. Listen in as I talk about setting expectations for your kids to become the husband/father they need to be for their family. It starts with you!
Archives for April 2016
What is it to be a desperate parent? One of the definitions of “desperate” is – of extreme intensity. Being a desperate parent is relying on God and recognizing that regardless of how many books you read or workshops you attend, it is all up to God to grip the heart of your child.
In this episode, I talk with Pastor Brad Bigney about our need to depend on God in our role as parents.
1. Cry out to God in prayer.
Add to what you are doing, desperate prayer that God will get to the heart of your children.
Find a deep dependence upon God as you parent.
2. Cling to God’s word for grace
Come to grips with how many verses make it clear that we have no power.
2 Corinthians 12:9 – But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
John 15:5 – I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.
3. Are willing to confess our own sins
Model forgiveness that to your own kids.
4. Are humble enough to allow others to speak to them about parenting
You don’t know it all as a parent, allow others to speak to you in this. Ask youth leaders, school teachers, etc. about how your kids are doing in class, on youth events, etc.
Watch out for building an idol out of your life at home. Your most important ministry is to take care of your wife/husband and your children.
When you run in Indiana, some days it feels like you’re always running against the wind, no matter which direction you are running. I have been training for the KT82 relay race to run with some friends in June. I started training in January and most of those miles seem to have come against the wind.
That’s just the way it is in northwest Indiana. There’s a reason Indiana was chosen as one of the locations for the wind farms.
Sometimes parenting is that way, life is that way. You feel like you have an uphill battle. You’re at odds with your kids over a decision you made. Maybe you’re even at odds with your spouse over a recent spat. You’re not wrong but you may not be right either.
You can’t change the wind but you can change your response. You can change your attitude. You can apply a soft answer as Proverbs 15:1 calls us to do. “A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.”
And you can keep running. Even if it feels like you’re going backwards, keep moving.
In this episode, I get to interview my father-in-law, as his business, Steffen’s Jewelry, celebrates its 60th Anniversary. After spending a couple years working in a watchmaking factory, Roger Steffen’s dad, Ray, moved to Rensselaer, IN and opened Steffen’s Jewelry in April 1956.
Like Father, Like Son
Roger started working for his dad in 1970 after getting trained in watch repair and jewelry work. In 1986, Roger purchased the business from his dad. Ray retired a couple years later and Roger continues in the business today.
It was not an easy start in 1956 as there were two other jewelry businesses in town at the time. But through diligence and hard work, Ray was built a successful business.
Through the years, Steffen’s Jewelry has truly been a family effort. Roger’s mom, Lucille, helped with the book work and after Ray retired, Roger’s wife Vickie came to work for the store.
For several years they have also had help from their daughter, Heather, during Christmas season and at various other times throughout the year.
Listen in as Roger shares stories from years gone by on the history of Steffen’s Jewelry.