In the March vlog, I talk about the decision of Adam LaRoche to retire from baseball. It all came down to the White Sox allowing his son in the clubhouse.
Archives for March 2016
How to Get Your Kids to Listen
Getting your kids to listen is a challenge for all parents at about every stage the kids go through.
In this episode, I talk about seven ideas on how to get your kids to listen to you. We have used all of these ideas at some point over the course of our parenting. The effectiveness of these tips varies on the personality of the child. Some ideas work better than others for different kids at different ages.
7 Tips for Getting your Kids to Listen to You:
- Remove distractions
- Penalize them
- Be patient
- Walk away
- Let them fail
Their failure to benefit from your wisdom will help them to recognize your wisdom.
What other ideas do you have on getting your kids to listen? Please share them in the comments section below.
Just Me and My Dad
If there’s one issue I harp on with Intentional Parenting, it is spending time with your kids. With the vast amount of influence you have on your children, the number one way to impact them is giving them your time.
As Downton Abbey closed its final season, they ran a special about the show and how an English household of that stature was run in the early 1900s. In it, they shared the way that children were raised in English aristocracy. Obviously, this was of particular interest to me.
My dear wife got me interested in the show several years ago. I was hesitant but it grew on me quickly.
Seen and Not Heard
Their way was hands off. Children of the day were to be seen and not heard. The custom was for them to spend one hour with their parents which was during tea time. Can you imagine that? One hour! Some of you reading this don’t get one hour a day away from your kids. And, for whatever reason, others you may barely see your kids a total of one hour a week.
The children’s ambition was to be well-behaved enough to have luncheon with the family. So, certainly, as the children got older, they were able to spend more time with the family. Primarily, though, as babies and toddlers the bulk of their time was spent in the nursery with the nanny and nursery maid.
Children of this period were brought up building strong bonds with the servants. We even see this played out during the show [Spoiler Alert] in a touching scene where Lady Mary has a moment with Mr. Carson, the butler, whom she is quite fond of, shortly after the death of her husband Matthew.
Once they turned the age of seven, boys would be sent off to boarding school. Then at age 13, off to Eton College or Harrow School, an independent boarding school for English boys. Finally, when they turned 18, they would be off to University at Oxford or Cambridge.
The girls, on the other hand, were raised by a governess who would make them “wife ready” and teach them English, French or perhaps something even like embroidery. They were to learn to have finesse so when they were grown and married they could carry on socially as they were expected.
Having grown up in rural America, I can not imagine growing up that way. But it’s interesting to watch a show like Downton Abbey and get a glimpse of what it might have been like in that time period in another country.
In this episode, I talk with Rev. Chris Moles about the issue of domestic violence. It is estimated that one in four women are subject to some form of domestic abuse.
Chris is an ordained minister with the Christian and Missionary Alliance and Senior Pastor of Grace Community Chapel (Eleanor, WV), he is a Certified Biblical Counselor (ACBC) and a certified group facilitator in domestic violence intervention and prevention, he is also a faculty member with the West Virginia Coalition against domestic violence state wide intervention training.
Pride lies at the heart of domestic violence.