In this month’s video blog, I talk about dating your spouse.
Archives for February 2016
Fun Times with Dad: Taking Nolan with me to get the cabinet doors replaced.
If you want to improve your parenting and your relationship with your kids, start by improving your marriage and your relationship with your spouse. Good parenting starts with good “marriaging”. I made that word up. I encourage you to use it in your normal vocabulary. Then whenever asked where it came from you can refer people to Intentional Parenting!
Love is Patient
Relationship requires patience and kindness. Loving our spouse means practicing these disciplines as we see in 1 Corinthians 13:4 – Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant.
I attended a Bible Conference recently and Pastor Steve Viars shared this thought, “What if God’s patience with us was equivalent to our patience with others?”
Kind of hits you between the eyes, doesn’t it?
Remember how the Lord is patient with you. The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance. ~ 2 Peter 3:9
Four Rules of Communication:
- Be Honest
- Stay Current
- Attack the Problem not the Person
- Act, Don’t React
Be intentional in listening as part of your communication with your spouse.
“When our desire morphs into demands it changes our relationship with other people around us.” ~ Pastor Brad Bigney
You have to be intentional to change and grow.
Have you ever had one of those days where your baby wakes you up early, spits up his breakfast all over the living room carpet, pees on you when you change him and goes through so many sets of clothes, you end up letting him run around in his diaper.
Those are the days when you just have to press on.
While it’s true the years go by fast, the days drag on forever. These are the days when you have to press on but these are also the days you want to bottle up. Because ten years down the road you’ll only remember how cute he was running around in his diaper. You’ll only remember how sweet he looked when you picked him up out of his crib that morning.
But now, in the moment, it’s rough. No one said it would be easy, just that it will be worth it.
Whenever he was asked what his favorite stage of parenting is, one dad always replied, “this one.”
Each season of parenting has special moments and special things about it. Each season of your kids’ lives holds something that makes you say that season is your favorite. Because, if you think about it, each day is a gift, and that is why we call it the “present”, as the saying goes.
The key is to find the joy in the long days to help sustain you. You don’t get that time back and sometimes you’re thankful for that but down the road, you’re gonna miss this.
Steven Curtis Chapman reminds of this in his song “Cinderella.” Read these lyrics:
She’s pulling at me saying “Dad I need you!
There’s a ball at the castle and I’ve been invited
and I need to practice my dancin’
Oh please, Daddy, please!”
While she is here in my arms
‘Cause I know something the prince never knew
Oh I will dance with Cinderella
I don’t want to miss even one song
‘Cause all too soon the clock will strike midnight
And she’ll be gone
Fun Times with Dad: Playing Bananagrams with Emma.
In this episode, I talk about how we can use our experiences in our parenting.
Wisdom is with the aged,
and understanding in length of days.
~ Job 12:12 ~
Each year we get, not only another year older, but also another year wiser. We can draw from experiences we had as kids to help us in parenting our own children. I share an experience I had when I was in Boy Scouts that I was able to draw on when my son and I went on a mission trip.