Community events are a great way to spend time with your family. One of the annual events our family likes to participate in is a 5K run/walk called the Chloe K 5K. My friend Jeff and his wife Susie organize this event. In the 10 years they have been at it, they have raised over $130K for autism research.
Go Cubs Go!
This Chicago Cubs team is off to the best start since 1907. 1907! That’s a long time ago. That’s before my grandpa was born! This year’s team is doing so well that you have to go back that far to find comparisons. The 1907 team started 29-8 and won the world series. This episode takes a look at the hot start to the season for the Cubs.
One of the many differences is that of salary. I think those players played for the love of the game more than the money. So many players, I think, probably play for the money, in that they wouldn’t be playing had it not be for the money. I wonder if this team plays for the love of the game too?
It seems like Manager Joe Maddon brings a lot of fun and relaxed culture to the team. The team seems to like each other which I imagine would help. Plus, let’s face, the team is stacked with really good players.
My dad came over the other day with his power washer. I had some areas of the house that needed to get cleaned up and power washers do the trick quite handily.
One of those areas was the back patio. After a few years of dirt collecting in a corner, spilled grease from the grill and other miscellaneous grime, it was due for a cleaning. I was very happy with the way it cleaned up after a pass over it with the power washer. Then my dad worked on it a bit and got the power washer even closer to the surface. I was amazed at how much more cleaned up it became after he worked on it a while.
The more we washed over the patio, the cleaner it became. More grime loosened and washed away. More dirt cleaned off.
Our hearts can be like the patio. We allow weeks and months and even years of dirt and filth to build up and stain it leaving it nasty and gross. It is still serviceable, it still does the job but it could be a lot cleaner.
How do we go about “power washing” our hearts? Through the light and truth of God’s word. There is power in those words. As we digest and meditate on what God is speaking to us through His word, we begin to gain an understanding of what He wants from us. We begin to wipe away the built-up filth that covers our hearts and grow into the holiness of God.
If you’re a Christian, God calls you to live a life of holiness.
1 Thessalonians 4:7 says, For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness.
You don’t get a pure heart by trying to live in your own strength. It comes through comparing your life to the light of God’s truth. When you look at your life this way, you see how filthy your heart is and you can get the nozzle closer to power wash away the dirt that remains. It’s the process of sanctification and it takes our whole life to work through as we seek to become more like Christ.
I learned a song in college called Refiner’s Fire. Friends would gather every so often just to sing praises to the Lord. This is one of the songs we would sing. The lyrics are as follows:
Purify my heart
Let me be as gold and precious silver
Purify my heart
Let me be as gold, pure gold
My heart’s one desire
Is to be holy
Set apart for You, Lord
I choose to be holy
Set apart for You, my Master
Ready to do Your will
Purify my heart
Cleanse me from within
And make me holy
Purify my heart
Cleanse me from my sin
What does this have to do with parenting? You will best lead your children when you lead from a place of authenticity. You will best lead your children when you are submitted to the ultimate Authority. When we focus our lives first on seeking Christ, we are better equipped to lead and teach our children.
In this episode, I have the pleasure of talking with speaker, author and entrepreneur, Kent Julian. I met Kent a few years ago at a youth conference and have since attended his Speak It Forward Boot Camp twice.
Kent often speaks about this formula that he picked up from Jack Canfield. This formula is Events (E) plus our Response (R) equals the Outcome (O). The only thing we can control is our response. Our attitude is key to the resulting outcome.
Getting to Quality Time
Quality time can’t be forced in our relationships. It’s something that happens naturally out of quantity time. Kent shares some examples of how this looks in his family.
Quality time is something that naturally happens from quantity time.
The Difference Maker
It’s the little things we do, day in and day out, that make the difference. Being consistent in doing the small things make a big impact on our family. Think cinnamon rolls, not Barry Manilow…you’ll have to listen to understand what this means!
Lessons are more often caught then taught. Listen in as I talk about setting expectations for your kids to become the husband/father they need to be for their family. It starts with you!
What is it to be a desperate parent? One of the definitions of “desperate” is – of extreme intensity. Being a desperate parent is relying on God and recognizing that regardless of how many books you read or workshops you attend, it is all up to God to grip the heart of your child.
In this episode, I talk with Pastor Brad Bigney about our need to depend on God in our role as parents.
1. Cry out to God in prayer.
Add to what you are doing, desperate prayer that God will get to the heart of your children.
Find a deep dependence upon God as you parent.
2. Cling to God’s word for grace
Come to grips with how many verses make it clear that we have no power.
2 Corinthians 12:9 – But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
John 15:5 – I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.
3. Are willing to confess our own sins
Model forgiveness that to your own kids.
4. Are humble enough to allow others to speak to them about parenting
You don’t know it all as a parent, allow others to speak to you in this. Ask youth leaders, school teachers, etc. about how your kids are doing in class, on youth events, etc.
Watch out for building an idol out of your life at home. Your most important ministry is to take care of your wife/husband and your children.
When you run in Indiana, some days it feels like you’re always running against the wind, no matter which direction you are running. I have been training for the KT82 relay race to run with some friends in June. I started training in January and most of those miles seem to have come against the wind.
That’s just the way it is in northwest Indiana. There’s a reason Indiana was chosen as one of the locations for the wind farms.
Sometimes parenting is that way, life is that way. You feel like you have an uphill battle. You’re at odds with your kids over a decision you made. Maybe you’re even at odds with your spouse over a recent spat. You’re not wrong but you may not be right either.
You can’t change the wind but you can change your response. You can change your attitude. You can apply a soft answer as Proverbs 15:1 calls us to do. “A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.”
And you can keep running. Even if it feels like you’re going backwards, keep moving.
In this episode, I get to interview my father-in-law, as his business, Steffen’s Jewelry, celebrates its 60th Anniversary. After spending a couple years working in a watchmaking factory, Roger Steffen’s dad, Ray, moved to Rensselaer, IN and opened Steffen’s Jewelry in April 1956.
Like Father, Like Son
Roger started working for his dad in 1970 after getting trained in watch repair and jewelry work. In 1986, Roger purchased the business from his dad. Ray retired a couple years later and Roger continues in the business today.
It was not an easy start in 1956 as there were two other jewelry businesses in town at the time. But through diligence and hard work, Ray was built a successful business.
Through the years, Steffen’s Jewelry has truly been a family effort. Roger’s mom, Lucille, helped with the book work and after Ray retired, Roger’s wife Vickie came to work for the store.
For several years they have also had help from their daughter, Heather, during Christmas season and at various other times throughout the year.
Listen in as Roger shares stories from years gone by on the history of Steffen’s Jewelry.
How to Get Your Kids to Listen
Getting your kids to listen is a challenge for all parents at about every stage the kids go through.
In this episode, I talk about seven ideas on how to get your kids to listen to you. We have used all of these ideas at some point over the course of our parenting. The effectiveness of these tips varies on the personality of the child. Some ideas work better than others for different kids at different ages.
7 Tips for Getting your Kids to Listen to You:
- Remove distractions
- Penalize them
- Be patient
- Walk away
- Let them fail
Their failure to benefit from your wisdom will help them to recognize your wisdom.
What other ideas do you have on getting your kids to listen? Please share them in the comments section below.
Just Me and My Dad