035 – On the Ashley Madison List? There is Hope.

Show Notes

In this episode, I talk with Dr. Brian J. Dixon about finding hope. After millions are exposed on the Ashley Madison list, there are many who may wonder, “what do I do now?” If this is you, we discuss the steps you can take in finding hope in the power and blood of Jesus. This doesn’t have to be the end. This can be the beginning of restoration.

John 8:3-11

GOOD NEWS:  There’s another list. It’s called the “Book of Life”. Revelation 3:5 says, He who overcomes shall be clothed in John8white garments, and I will not blot out his name from the Book of Life; but I will confess his name before My Father and before His angels.

The blood of Jesus is able to cover even this sin, IF you humble yourself before Him and ask forgiveness. Just like I have to do every day.

Next Steps in finding Victory:
1. Humble yourself – repent, admit your sin and turn to (or back to) God
2. Ask Forgiveness – from those in your life that you hurt by this (wife, children, family, etc.)
3. Seek help and Accountability – consider biblical counseling

2 Corinthians 12:9 – And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me

You are called to a greater purpose!

Matthew 22:37-40 – Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”

Resources and Links:
I am Ashley Madison article by Dr. Brian J. Dixon
Conquer Series
Stepping Up
Pure Life Ministries
Biblical Counseling
Romans (the Message)

034 – Committed to the YES Moments

Show Notes

Fun Times with Dad: Recently our family went to the Indianapolis Indians minor league baseball game. It was the perfect indians-gamenight for baseball in which the Indians won in extra innings and my son wound up with the game winning ball!

In this episode, I discuss “Yes” moments in parenting. “Yes” Moments are moments your kids shine for Jesus. They are moments of significance with your kids. Moments when you rest in the joy of just being together, be it family time or one-on-one time.

Commit to the Parenting Role
1. Prepare for the task
2. Understand the priority of the role of parenting
3. Regularly invest time in your kids

7 Secrets of Effective Fathers by Ken Canfield

033 – Back to School Routine

Show Notes

Fun Times with Dad: Let’s go Ride a Bike
How to Help Your Kids Get into a Back to School Routine
1. Review the Week’s Schedule
  • Plan for the activities
  • Assess the schedule for activities that may need to be dropped
  • Your kids need help planning an organizing their time
2. Help Them Prepare a Morning routine  
  • Getting to bed at the same time each night, getting up the same time each morning
  • Kids need their sleep
3. Help them Make Time for Personal Devotions (SOAP BOX)
  • Start the day with God’s word <— YOU NEED TO MODEL THIS AS PARENTS
  • Youth ministry should not be the whole “pie” of their spiritual nourishment
  • The best youth leader for your child is YOU!
  • Help direct them spiritually

032 – Choosing Friends

Show Notes

In this episode, we address a question from a listener on helping our kids choose friends. This is an issue we wrestled with as parents. I hope you find this episode beneficial in intentionally parenting your children in this area.

Fun Times with Dad: Playing baseball in the backyard with the boys.

Event: Biblical Parenting Workshop: Tech EditionProverbs13_20
For details and to register go to www.intentionalparenting.net/BPW

Choosing Friends

He who walks with wise men will be wise,
But the companion of fools will be destroyed.
~ Proverbs 13:20 ~

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn

Link – G6

Five Thoughts on Friendship
1. Follow Jesus’ model
“We should learn from Jesus that the essential quality in the heart of friendship is not the desire to have friends, but the desire to be a friend.” – J.R. Miller

2. Pray for your kids – to have wisdom in discernment in choosing friends wisely.

3. Talk to your children – about being the influencer in the relationship.

4. Be hospitable – Make your home the place others come to visit.
The righteous should choose his friends carefully,
For the way of the wicked leads them astray.
~ Proverbs 12:26 ~

5. Develop friendships among your children

What additional thoughts do you have on this topic? Share with us in the comments section below!

Something’s Burning!

Wake Up Call

“Phil! Something’s Burning!” It was about 5:30 am and I went from half asleep to up and out in the kitchen in about a 1/2 second. Those that played softball with me back in the day probably aren’t shocked by the speed, but there isn’t much that wakes you up like smoke in your house.

My wife, Heather, determined there was something wrong with the refrigerator. She “heard a noise and then saw smoke.” Yep, definitely something wrong there.

I pulled the refrigerator out from the cabinets away from the wall. The smell was not pleasant. The smoke was also not constant. Heather was ready with the fire extinguisher but fortunately we did not need it. Every so often, may be 10-15 minutes, we’d hear a whirring sound an then a puff of smoke released from the bottom of the back of the unit.

Monitoring the Situation

I took a shower and got ready for work while Heather monitored the situation. Then she got ready for her Bible Study and I emailed that I would be late into work.

The whirring and smoke thing happened a couple more times and you’d think that we’d just unplug it but it was still keeping our food cold. I did empty the freezer and was able to store it all in our deep frsmokeeeze that we have in the garage. Then it hit me that this was possibly caused by the ice-maker. Our ice machine had been on the fritz for several months. It occurred to me to turn the machine off so it wouldn’t try to make ice. I think that did it but the damage was done to the refrigerator.

Unexpected Shopping Trip

First thing we did at 9:00 am was go shopping for a new refrigerator. We found a Maytag model that we liked and were able to get it installed later that afternoon.

Heather found that when she went to pull the food out of the old refrigerator, there was condensation and it had stopped working. We still hadn’t unplugged it because it was keeping the food cold still. Or at least it was for a while. We’re not certain at what point it stopped working.

We were thankful this happened when we were home. We had been gone the entire previous day. We were also thankful to get a new refrigerator replaced the same day.

Survival Mode

When a crisis comes up, it seems like you automatically switch into survival mode. You get the mindset of “what do I need to do right now to work toward a resolution to this issue.”

Things come up in life and sometimes we need to drop everything else for that which needs our attention and deserves to be top priority.

Cody Collier talked about this in episode 031 of the podcast. When his wife was put on bed rest in the hospital due to complications with her pregnancy, he said, “you go into survival mode to do what you need to do to take care of your family.”

Step Up

A smoking refrigerator is obviously not as serious as complications with a pregnancy but it illustrates the point. You can’t ignore matters that are urgent. Heather did not want to deal with that by herself. I didn’t want her to have to deal with it by herself either.

For the benefit of your marriage and your family, do what you need to do to take care of them. They are your highest priority. Be alert enough to recognize when something is burning that needs your attention. Maybe it’s a relationship with your daughter that is not good. Maybe your son is going down a path that will hurt him. Step up and get the fire extinguisher out to correct what is wrong so it doesn’t turn into a major disaster.

031 – Premature Birth with Cody Collier

Show Notes

Cody Collier

Cody Collier

Cody Collier is a singer/songwriter, DJ with WFRN, husband and dad. Earlier this year his wife Ashlie had a baby girl. This experience didn’t go quite as expected and Cody shares his story of God’s faithfulness through this experience.

In March of 2015, Cody’s wife, Ashlie, began experiencing complications with her pregnancy. This resulted in her having to spend five weeks in the hospital on bed rest. Their daughter, Piper, was born on April 30, over two months before the due date.

Cody opens up about this experience and what they went through as a family.


Cody Collier Music
Cody on Twitter
Find Cody’s Music on iTunes

030 – One Dad, Four Boys and Eight Crazy Days

01-IMG_5214Show Notes

Bart Rinkenberger is simply trying, as many of us are, to be an intentional parent. Bart recently took his four boys on a backpacking trip to Colorado. In this episode I talked to Bart about this experience. He tells us what he did to prepare for the trip, provides some great stories about the trip and shares insights for how you can also do a similar trip with your kids.

1. Be Prepared

Do your homework before setting out on a trip like this. Talk to people who have experience in the type of activity you want to do with your family. Along with that, set up an itinerary to give you a guideline of what you want to accomplish on the trip. Finally, save your 02-IMG_5200money ahead of time and budget for the expected (an unexpected) expenses.

2. Execute

Head out and enjoy the journey. Don’t worry about accomplishing everything on your itinerary, but enjoy the experience with your family making time for spontaneity. Make sure to make time for God and unplug from technology. Also, be willing to adapt and divert from your agenda as necessary.

10-IMG_52683. Reflect

Take time after the trip to reflect and share with each other, as well as with others, your favorite memories of the trip. Note the “flip flop” story Bart shares with us!


029 – Decisions We Have Made in Parenting, Part 2

Show Notes

In this episode, Heather and I continue our conversation talking about some of the decisions God has led us to in our parenting journey.

If you missed part 1, you can find it in episode 028.Be prayerful and rely on the Lord.

1. Kids Activities
There seems to be a lot of pressure to involve your kids in a variety of activities from preschool all the way through High School. We have chosen to limit the number of activities our children participate in because we didn’t want to put ourselves in a situation where the kids’ activities dictate our priorities.

2. Homeschool
Started in 2010. Heather is SAHM (Stay at Home Mom) and shares our story on our decision to homeschool our kids.

028 – Decisions We Have Made in Parenting, Part 1

Show Notes

Fun Times with the Husband and Wife: On the night of this recording, we got dinner out together while the kids were  occupied by Mary Poppins. Spit spot!

In this episode, we start a two part series where Heather and I talk about some of the decisions we were intentional in making along part of our parenting journey.

Decisions We’ve Made in Parentingphilandheather

1. Cutting Cable out of our Home
About ten years ago, we decided to shut off our cable. We do watch some shows via the internet or DVD but we can be more intentional about what we choose to watch. This decision came as a result of attending family camp to allow more time for us to serve the Kingdom more than ourselves.

2. Vacationing to Family Camp
We love Gull Lake Ministries family camp. (You can hear about it on episode 006 of our podcast.) GLM is great for all ages. It provides solid Bible teaching, a safe environment and includes a planned-out agenda. We enjoy the opportunity to detox from the culture and unplug from the world for a week.

3. Serving in Ministry
We have been blessed with opportunities to serve in ministry including some leadership positions in our church over the course of our years there. We enjoy this because it allows us the ability to involve the kids in ministry and serves as a growing impact on the kids. Through these opportunities, we have learned to trust God by saying ‘yes’ to some of the opportunities that have come along.

“God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called.”

027 – Teaching Your Children About Stewardship

Show Notes

Scott and Amy Goldsmith with their children, Aiden, Ella, Sascha, Nina and Truett.

Scott and Amy Goldsmith with their children, Aiden, Ella, Sascha, Nina and Truett.

In this episode, I talk with Scott Goldsmith, Financial Advisor with Ronald Blue & Co. Scott shares some great advice on how to think about stewardship and ownership and provides wisdom on how to intentionally teach our children about stewardship.

“One of the most important things is to help kids understand their stewardship responsibility and God’s ownership responsibility.” – Scott Goldsmith

Stewardship Principles to Follow

  1. The importance of having goals (Proverbs 16:9)
  2. Avoiding the use of debt (Proverbs 22:7)
  3. Increasing generosity (1 Timothy 6:17-19)
  4. Diversifying your investments (Ecclesiastes 11:2)